Equanimity

About a year ago I learned about “equanimity”, which is the ability to be grateful for all there is in the present moment while letting postive and negative emotions come and go with neutrality. Equanimity is very difficult for me… which is why it is a very beneficial thing for me to practice.

Equanimity refers to balance, to remaining centered in the middle of whatever is happening. This form of balance comes from some inner strength or stability. The strong presence of inner calm, well-being, confidence, vitality, or integrity can keep us upright, like ballast keeps a ship upright in strong winds (see “Seven Supports for Equanimity,”). As inner strength develops, for example, from the accumulation of mindfulness in the ordinary moments of life, equanimity follows.

Today was one of those days where I woke up and I felt like something was missing. This happens to me every once in a while and it seems like no matter how much I rack my brain, I can’t come up with a good reason as to why I am feeling like this. And then it dawned on me… this was a perfect moment to practice equanimity.

How I do this:

I take a few minutes to reflect. To make sure there isn’t actually something that I am doing wrong. Then I pull out of a piece of paper and write down everything good in my life. The things I am grateful for… the accomplishments I am proud of. The things I am excited about. Once I run out of room on that piece of paper, I feel like an entirely new person. The negative emotions get rerouted into positive emotions instead of leaving me in an empty limbo for several days.

If you’re an Enneagram 4, or simply going through some kind of rough patch, I highly recommend doing more research on the positive affects of equanimity!

September Polaroids

This week I introduced Ella to our Polaroid camera and she had so much fun watching the pictures pop out of the bottom. Here are a few of those photos. 🖤

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The Only App That Wakes Me Up

If you struggle with waking up in the morning, you’re in good company.

Not only am I the deepest sleeper in my family but I’ve been known to do unpredictable things in my sleep as well. A lot of times it’s self sabotaging. I’ve unplugged my alarm clock in my sleep. I’ve pulled my phone under my body to tune out the noise. I’ve snoozed a dozen times without even being conscious of it. Once, I woke up at 12:30pm when I was supposed to be somewhere by 7:45 am. Story of my teenage life.

Then I found this lifesaving app called Alarmy Pro. On the day's that I decide to use it, it wakes me up without question. Notice how I say “on the days I decide to use it” because it’s insanely annoying and I don’t like to set it unless I have to guarantee I’m awake at a certain time.

I’ve tried almost every alarm clock in the app store but Alarmy is the only one that works for me.

These are the two ways I use it:

  1. Shake To Wake: The alarm will increase in volume until you shake your iPhone a set amount of times. If you want to snooze, you gotta shake. This is my low level option because I can do it in bed.

  2. Take a Photo: The alarm will increase in volume until you take a photo of an object you’ve specified. Again, you can’t snooze until you take this photo. Mine is of my coffee maker, so I have to sprint downstairs as fast as I can before the volume gets so loud that it wakes up my baby. This option works 100% of the time.

You’re welcome.